Thursday, August 23, 2007
I Will Beat Your ASS!!!!!!
One of the women I deal with is a lawyer. Once a week or more she tells me of a lady that is getting her ASS beat by her man. The next week the same lady is trying to drop the abuse charges, but little does she know they can’t be dropped. The State is obligated to pursue the lawsuit even if the abused doesn’t want to follow through with it.
Why???? It doesn’t make since. Why do women stay in an abusive relationship? Sometimes its physical, but other times its mental and emotional. I have even had a personal situation that a relationship didn’t go well because I wasn’t abusive. Really what the FUCK?
Women might be in a bad situation, but they don’t leave. Physiologically women see that as love. He beat my ASS because he loves me. They justify his actions for him and somehow they deserved to be degraded.
Beating someone is an extremely, but mental abuse can be just as damaging. Women seem to have a tendency for “bad boys.” “Bad Boys” bring this type of drama, but women keep going for this type.
So do most women (even if its on a subconscious level) like a little abuse?
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ummm..who knows they do? you yourself have experienced it right?..women are unpredictable many times..
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Brother I can't imagine. What must have happened in someone's life to perversely twist their view of love to include abuse of any sort. It's a sick a** world out there and a lot of people need help.
Good thought provoking post.
**Why do women stay in an abusive relationship?
Abuse can be in mental or physical form. Alot of women feel that having a man (good or bad) in their life is the ultimate happiness. its so wrong...cos if he's an abusive man, it's worse than being single!
Keshi.
wacko - they are predictably unpredictable.
G - yeah I guess abuse was reinforced to the point that this is not normal but the standard
Keshi - Yeah I would say being single is for less painful than that of an abusive relationship. Shit you should be in a relationship if you can't be by yourself.
i agree w/ G & Keshi! Can't speak for other women - but THIS one has NO desire on ANY level for any TYPES of abuse...i enjoy me & LOVING too much! When raised voices &/or "play fighting" come into the equation i tend to fade out. I pray for those who "need" ANYone to the point that they endure abuse. It's a seriously sad phenomena.
Some because they're "in love."
From hearing experiences, it's because they "can't."
It is not always as easy as you think to leave. People think you can just pick up and leave. It doesn't work like that. It is a break up with a crazy person. Break ups are tough it is only tougher is the person is insane.
Women say things like:
"He's sexy"... "There's chemistry between
us"... "I really feel something for him"... etc.
And also remember: If a woman feels a strong
ATTRACTION for you, then the rest of the equation
isn't as important. If she feels it, she'll go out
of her way to find good reasons to be with you...
even if you're not her "physical type".
On the other hand, no amount of gifts, favors,
dinners, kindness, or a good family will make her
feel ATTRACTION... at best these things can only
make her feel a more "loyal" kind of love.
So, if women don't like "average" guys and the
most important thing is to make her feel
ATTRACTION towards you, then how do you do it?
I thought you'd never ask...
Let's talk about the word "average" and what it
REALLY means.
As far as women are concerned, and especially
the ATTRACTIVE ones, men are EVERYWHERE. They're
like cars. Every once in awhile one stands out and
makes you say, "Oh, that one is nice."
A lot of guys take this concept too far and say
"Well, I'm not rich, and I'm not famous... so, no
really hot woman is going to find me attractive."
My experience and research has shown me that
women are far more ATTRACTED to things like
attitude, confidence, body language, humor, etc.
than looks or money. Sure, those things might
INITIALLY get a woman's attention, and there are
those women that will only settle for a rich or
unusually handsome guy... but, this is the extreme
minority.
In fact, it's very easy to be seen as "above
average" if you know what women are looking for,
and you know how to deliver.
Remember the danger: If you are perceived as
"average" early on, then a switch goes off in her
mind, and the game will be over before it's even
begun.
No break-up isn't easy and a breakup with a crazy person isn't any easier. There is a heightened sense of emotions.
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